*Before reading this blog post, please watch this video clip*
In this blog, I will relate our class discussion on television and the internet's effect on childhood to the above segment of daytime tv show "Maury" and an article from the New York Times magazine entitled "The Loss of Childhood" by Marie Winn.
Back in the Golden Age of childhood, when it was invented or discovered in the 18th and 19th centuries, "Children, at least until they reached the 'terrible teens,' were seen as innocent, playful, childlike creatures in need of special protection, and parents were fiercely determined to keep childhood... carefree" but today "In their everyday demeanor, the language they use, the things they know and above all in their relations with the adult world, children have changed". (Marie Winn) There are many reasons for this change, such as the way that parent-child relationships have evolved since then, with the popularization of divorce and thus single-parents, "sex-drugs-and-rock'n'roll" from the 60's and 70's, and a new psychological paranoia of parents who believe their child-rearing is ruining their kids lives. But one thing is certain- the impact first of television and then of the internet has blurred the line between child and adult, of that which is kept secret until maturity and that which is exposed indiscriminately through new open media.
Marie Winn puts it best, saying "It was television that first penetrated the protective cocoon and thrust the long-hidden outside world into women's and children's lives. The new freedom and openness of the 1960's and 1970's allowed programs to grow more violent and sexually explicit - more adult, as they say. But soon parents made a troubling discovery: It was not easy to keep these programs out of the reach of their children; television was too hard to control. Parents consequently began to abandon some of their former protection of children - if only to prepare them to some degree for what they were bound to see on television anyway". Networks may have put some inappropriate shows on later, past the bedtime of the average kid, but what about daytime soap operas and ridiculously outlandish talkshows, like Maury (seen above)? Those are aired mid-day, while most kids are at school and housewives take a break from their mundane daily existence for some fantastical escapism to a sexier, juicier, more interesting life than their own. But what about kids not in school, or those too young to know what they're being exposed to while it no-doubt begins to familiarize them with things they just needn't know? And how about the poor single mother who can't afford day care so sits her children in front of the cheapest baby-sitter around, the television, for hours on end, while they simultaneously lose their imagination, curiousity and innocence due to the content and images they're watching?
Today, parents have basically given up, understanding that other than throwing out the tv and cutting off the web, they really have no control over what their kids are going to see, hear, and eventually say and do, whether in their own livingroom or out on the mean streets of the school yard. Now, in an attempt to control the chaos, Moms and Dads have taken on a completely uncensored role with their kids, answering any and all questions, putting the things they hear and see in the context of a reality they can't even begin to grasp. And that really is the difference; just because kids are more aware now than they ever were about the things that television and internet glorifies (sex, scandal, money, power, popularity, and idol-worship), it doesn't mean that they really fully understand them, that they have any clue about how those things actually relate to real life outside of the little box they stare at, and simply put, they're obsession with tv is part of the reason they aren't developmentally capable of comprehending them at all. Instead, they just act on what they see- as exhibited by the ridiculous, disgusting, wrecklessness of the 15 year old who wants have a baby so she can be like her uneducated pregnant-teen trash friends, and doesn't care what STD's she'll catch, or trouble she'll get into along the way. I wonder if her mother thought twice when at age 10, she bought her first tube of lip gloss, wanted shorter skirts or highlighted hair; if her mother paraded the men she saw around the appartment, having loud sex in the other room. Maybe she thinks having a kid will be easier than graduating high school and facing the real world, which she knows so little about. But one thing is sure, this 15 year-old desperate slut fancies herself a full-fledged adult. Why not? She's well-versed in the ways of sex. What else is there to it.
What's even scarier is the thought of her potential child. How will it be raised? With what values? Will it be exposed to it's mothers mishaps on "girls gone wild", encouraged to steal what it can't afford, told that the attention of men is more important than the affection of friends and family? But what is there to do? Maybe honesty is the best policy. Maybe television should start showing more shows on drug addicts, humanitarian crises, pollution, AIDS victims, random acts of violence, and just how scary the world is beyond the glitz and glam of sex and money. But then what would our kids be like? Paranoid, anxious agoraphobes afraid to set food outside in day-light or attempt human relationships. I wonder if that's the better option.